I am born on 23 March 1984 in Tehran, Iran which means that I am born in the middle of the Iran and Iraq war that took place from 1980 to 1988. As a baby I don’t remember much but as I got a bit older, maybe close to 3 years old, the Iraqi attacks approached Tehran and therefore my family, like so many others, moved to our chalet located 4 hours north of Tehran. My older siblings both continued their education in a local school and we experienced a different life for 7 months living with friends and families in our little villa. What I remember the most from those days are the joyful moments spent with the new friends that I have found while staying there. We were there together with no judgement and excuse and we had the best time of our lives not knowing the amount of stress that our parents tolerated in those moments!
What separates us when we get older?
When I was 18 years old, I was not the same person anymore. I was not that non- judgemental kid who wanted to start a conversation and play and give love to anyone around her. My heart was covered with a shade of judgement and my mind was full of social codes as an assurance to choose friends. Do I regret it? Yes I do. I stayed within my bubble till the day I left Iran in 2007. Canada was the same experience or even worse;).
We as adults get more and more difficult to communicate and to connect. I don’t want to necessarily find new friends, I have enough :), but I am just searching for that same innocence and purity in the relationships. I am just craving for the conversations with no codes and no extra questions. The ones that come from a big heart, and a curious mind!
How can we as children be more caring of others and be more empathetic? what happens during our adulthoods that we all, everyone of us, become more arrogant?
Nowadays that I am focusing on mindfulness which boosts both self awareness and empathy, I am realizing that we are becoming less focused which means less self-aware and since we are not connecting to ourselves, there is no hope that we can connect to others. Nowadays, it is acceptable, or even expected to do exercise and to eat healthy to take care of our bodies but how many of us take care of our minds? of our values? of what we have earned through the years which are now sitting on the shelves somewhere in us with a huge dust on them? How many of us while looking beautiful on Facebook and Instagram feel miserable at night because we are not connected to ourselves and we don’t love and accept ourselves as who we are and we don’t do anything about it?
I think we need to mix the knowledge about ourselves and our surroundings plus the power we all have at this age with that openness and purity and simplicity of our childhood to be able to make a real change.
Let’s do it!