So many people asked me this question for the last couple of years. “Why do you want to quit your job? You get paid well and you are living a good life?”
I couldn’t exactly describe my situation at work for my friends and family, but I always told myself and others that I am at the peak of learning and that development for me at this stage is the most important step to take.
Recently, my husband who works in the aerospace industry has participated in a personnel development course offered by his company in which he has been given a book to learn his attitudes and strengths.
As I am quite excited about these topics these days, I started to read the book and a phrase struck me the most. “We have seen talented people DESTROYED by careers that paid high wages but did not build their self-esteem. That is a high price to pay. I have counseled people to “leave a successful career” that was destroying them-start their own businesses- and have seen them achieve heights they never thought possible. Honoring that self within is a must-not an option.”
Voila, that is exactly the definition of my job for the last couple of years and I am pretty sure I am not the only one experiencing this misery at work. And I have realized for the first time that I am being paid ONLY to do the job and consequently to destroy my inner self and being someone else I am not and that is a very high price to pay.
Last night I went to a live show with my husband and I have witnessed an engineer turned into a music software developer and a music producer rocking in front of bunch of weird dudes in a quite weird venue. For a moment I thought of his transition. We hear a lot about people who changes professions and careers and life styles but I guess once you are in the process, you feel the details with all your cells. He was German so I thought he probably worked for an engineering firm in Germany before his shift. Consider the work environment he has been working in. Probably an uptight, conservative and super productive (like all Germans :))workplace where the relations have the same level of structure and frame as the procedures and designs. And then I was brought back to the venue by his beats and light installation and I thought that he is now playing for this crowd in Montreal, a totally different crowd who regardless of their day jobs and careers are there to have fun and to dance.
Do you know what was the first word which Came to my mind about his shift and this process?
Open-mindness. I guess the first step to make a shift and to change our mindsets is to be open minded enough to believe that there are alternatives in life, that there are millions of ways to make money, and there are millions of people and cultures to connect to, and there are tons of ways to spend your hours from early in the morning to the late at night.
If we have the open-mindness founded in our mindset we will have the courage to give our inner selves a voice to be heard.